How to be a totally rad boyfriend (or girlfriend or S.O.)

[nlatimer]

Lets have tips on here for those constantly looking to improve their radness.

One way to be a totally rad S.O., Obtain 4 Insane to Legendary rune items for your girlfriend so she can beat the end game of Puzzle Quest.

[deegraww]

Lets have tips on here for those constantly looking to improve their radness.

One way to be a totally rad S.O., Obtain 4 Insane to Legendary rune items for your girlfriend so she can beat the end game of Puzzle Quest.

Buy her a dozen puppies. Girls like puppies better than flowers and what says I love you more then a dozen puppies I mean it's just simple math 1 puppy = aww! 12 puppies = OMGZ AWWZ!!!!

[gojira]

I let her win at video games sometimes.

[deegraww]

I let her win at video games... sometimes.

pauses FTW

[svgamer]

I have found that Multiple "O"s are always appreciated. :D

[diane]

Buy her a dozen puppies. Girls like puppies better than flowers and what says I love you more then a dozen puppies I mean it's just simple math 1 puppy = aww! 12 puppies = OMGZ AWWZ!!!!

Thank you for making my Monday morning better.

[patch]

Buy her a dozen puppies. Girls like puppies better than flowers and what says I love you more then a dozen puppies I mean it's just simple math 1 puppy = aww! 12 puppies = OMGZ AWWZ!!!!

No, I'm sorry. You are incorrect.

Buy her 12 kittens.

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/cat_proximity.png

Kittens rule over puppies when it comes to the ladies.

[deegraww]

No, I'm sorry. You are incorrect.

Buy her 12 kittens.

Kittens rule over puppies when it comes to the ladies.

Um no unless they can do this
http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2007/02/1161363562249.jpg

[patch]

Um no unless they can do this
http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2007/02/1161363562249.jpg

Dude... I have a GRAPH! You can't argue with a graph!!

[deegraww]

Dude... I have a GRAPH! You can't argue with a graph!!

Yeah but it's not a Pie graph.

mmm Pie /drool

[patch]

Yeah but it's not a Pie graph.

mmm Pie /drool

Either way.

Graph>No graph.

You didn't even present a graph. So I win.

[tokenuser]

No ***** pie charts ... keep it clean ;)

[masherscf]

Yeah but it's not a Pie graph.

mmm Pie /drool

I like a good apple crumble.

http://www.foodnetwork.com/food/recipes/recipe/0,,FOOD_9936_34390,00.html

[deegraww]

Either way.

Graph>No graph.

You didn't even present a graph. So I win.

Yeah again i'm gonna say no.

[wizmaster]

No, I'm sorry. You are incorrect.

Buy her 12 kittens.

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/cat_proximity.png

Kittens rule over puppies when it comes to the ladies.

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/dating_pools.png

Lol, had to do it.

[diane]

Great, now I want Pie.

Ooh, presents of pie! That is always appreciated. And they are so much better than flowers that just die anyway.

Oh, and chocolate. Warm, straight from the oven brownies....Okay, sorry, just got lost in a wonderful fantasy.

[heyseuss]

If you learn to put the toilet seat down yourself without crying about it, I'll learn to ask for directions. Yang my ying.

[tink2112]

If you learn to put the toilet seat down yourself without crying about it, I'll learn to ask for directions. Yang my ying.

how about you put the seat down and i just mapquest everything?

[heyseuss]

how about you put the seat down and i just mapquest everything?

Same thing, I'd follow your directions. I actually always have put the seat down and never understood the stories of couples concerns, but that's probably because I grew up with 3 older sisters. I've never had a girlfriend mention it to me.

Here's one: Don't ask me if those jeans make your ass look fat, unless you are able to accept the answer.

I had a girlfriend that had a lovely large ass, but owned a pair of jeans that made it look bad. If you wanna know if I think your ass is fat, ask that. Regardless, even if it is fat, why can't you acknowledge that I am already in with love it, seeing as we're together. And if you ask if those jeans make it look worse, and in my ex-girlfriends (who coincedentally just emailed me to ask if she could stop by tomorrow, haven't seen her in over a year) case, where the jeans did make it worse, understand that it's not the fault of the junk, but the style, cut and sizing of the trunk.

[tink2112]

Same thing, I'd follow your directions. I actually always have put the seat down and never understood the stories of couples concerns, but that's probably because I grew up with 3 older sisters. I've never had a girlfriend mention it to me.

Here's one: Don't ask me if those jeans make your ass look fat, unless you are able to accept the answer.

I had a girlfriend that had a lovely large ass, but owned a pair of jeans that made it look bad. If you wanna know if I think your ass is fat, ask that. Regardless, even if it is fat, why can't you acknowledge that I am already in with love it, seeing as we're together. And if you ask if those jeans make it look worse, and in my ex-girlfriends (who coincedentally just emailed me to ask if she could stop by tomorrow, haven't seen her in over a year) case, where the jeans did make it worse, understand that it's not the fault of the junk, but the style, cut and sizing of the trunk.


thats the case that she has some kind of insecurity. not really your fault, especially considering its a totally loaded question to which just about any answer will get you in trouble.

[heyseuss]

thats the case that she has some kind of insecurity. not really your fault, especially considering its a totally loaded question to which just about any answer will get you in trouble.

I had a different girlfriend looking at herself in the mirror. She sighed and said "I've got to get to the gym", and I replied, out of the corner of my mouth in a dry and over-sarcastic tone of voice, "yeh, you sure do chunky". ... When she started crying, I didn't feel that sorry. My voice and the way I said it was thoroughly sarcastic, it was akin to saying "as if", but she didn't pick up on that becasue she was already making herself feel bad needlessly. I don't care about these kinds of things about myself personally. Pretty secure about all of me, regardless of the state. I certainly wouldn't be affected by someone elses opinions either, so I don't know why people ask each other, "what do you think about me?".

[tink2112]

I had a different girlfriend looking at herself in the mirror. She sighed and said "I've got to get to the gym", and I replied, out of the corner of my mouth in a dry and over-sarcastic tone of voice, "yeh, you sure do chunky". ... When she started crying, I didn't feel that sorry. My voice and the way I said it was thoroughly sarcastic, it was akin to saying "as if", but she didn't pick up on that becasue she was already making herself feel bad needlessly. I don't care about these kinds of things about myself personally. Pretty secure about all of me, regardless of the state. I certainly wouldn't be affected by someone elses opinions either, so I don't know why people ask each other, "what do you think about me?".

hmm thats a tough one. granted she should have realized you were joking, its not a great idea to joke about that, since chicks are usually pretty sensitive about that kind of stuff. and the reason people ask each other "what do you think of me" its usually cause they care about their specific opinion, such as a gf or bf.

[diane]

I had a different girlfriend looking at herself in the mirror. She sighed and said "I've got to get to the gym", and I replied, out of the corner of my mouth in a dry and over-sarcastic tone of voice, "yeh, you sure do chunky". ... When she started crying, I didn't feel that sorry. My voice and the way I said it was thoroughly sarcastic, it was akin to saying "as if", but she didn't pick up on that becasue she was already making herself feel bad needlessly. I don't care about these kinds of things about myself personally. Pretty secure about all of me, regardless of the state. I certainly wouldn't be affected by someone elses opinions either, so I don't know why people ask each other, "what do you think about me?".

Okay, I will never turn to for cheering up if I am down...

[heyseuss]

hmm thats a tough one. granted she should have realized you were joking, its not a great idea to joke about that, since chicks are usually pretty sensitive about that kind of stuff.

Some are, this one apparently was. But her insecurity and inability to deal with the situation, was a turn-off to me. I think my sarcastic reply implied that I disagreed with her, which really meant, that I was complimenting her. I understand the loaded question and sensitivity of it, but it's still just an insecurity issue, which leads me to . ..

and the reason people ask each other "what do you think of me" its usually cause they care about their specific opinion, such as a gf or bf.

Well, yeh, I knew that people asked that question for that reason, but they kinda shouldn't be worried is what I mean. I know, that if we meet and fall in love and live together, that your opinion of me is pretty good. I won't need to be reassured throughout the relationship. I don't think I've ever asked a partner any of those kinds of questions. I'm secure enough about myself. That's about loving yourself enough beforehand, so that you can offer a true self to someone else, rather than search for justification of your being, in someone else. I'm so okay with me, that noone can sway me otherwise, which some shallow women will try and do. If they say, "your penis is too small", all I hear is, "my vagina is too big". I'm fine and dandy with my greying, receding hairline, and my spare tire, and whatever other faults I can find about myself. I wouldn't want to have a woman who wasn't ok with herself. ... although, most of them are not.

[heyseuss]

Okay, I will never turn to for cheering up if I am down...

I'd tell you it is what it is. Then, I'd also remind you what a brilliant mother you are and how much I admire and respect you for that. It's a display of strength and love I don't think I will ever have in my life.

If you are down on yourself, just do a priority check. Are all your ribs showing because of all the cocaine you are doing in the nightclubs while picking up greasy dudes with gold chains, or is your son a well adjusted, bright and thoroughly loved young boy ? If you're down, ask yourself why he loves his intelligent, supporting and providing mother, and relish in the fact that your ability to raise him, comes from your ability to love yourself enough to do these things for him.

You have magical powers Diane, I don't ever want to hear you beat yourself up over the small stuff.

[rlith]

I too have listened to my wife go, "I'm fat"... and "Do I look fat in this?". After several years I finally started saying, "Yup" in reply. She didn't cry, but she would start giving me the evil eye.

Finally she asked do you think I'm overweight? I say no I don't, but I'm no longer feeding into idiotic questions about clothes you spent all day trying on and bought only to fish for more compliments. I then say, as long as you don't bloat too too much, it's cool. The moment you look like jabba the hut, I divorce you and find some bimbo and tickle her throat.

She stopped asking fishing for complimet questions like that. Haven't heard one in 3 years. :)

[patch]

You have magical powers Diane, I don't ever want to hear you beat yourself up over the small stuff.

I've been saying this all along! Glad to hear I'm not the only one saything this to her! Lol.

[heyseuss]

I too have listened to my wife go, "I'm fat"... and "Do I look fat in this?". After several years I finally started saying, "Yup" in reply. She didn't cry, but she would start giving me the evil eye.

Finally she asked do you think I'm overweight? I say no I don't, but I'm no longer feeding into idiotic questions about clothes you spent all day trying on and bought only to fish for more compliments. I then say, as long as you don't bloat too too much, it's cool. The moment you look like jabba the hut, I divorce you and find some bimbo and tickle her throat.

She stopped asking fishing for complimet questions like that. Haven't heard one in 3 years. :)

And, in all honesty, I'll tell a woman if her health is concerned, out of love, not because I'm trying to hurt her feelings.

[masherscf]

And, in all honesty, I'll tell a woman if her health is concerned, out of love, not because I'm trying to hurt her feelings.

You should leave health concerns between a woman and her doctor. It's not your place to give out health advice to another adult.

I suspect that any person morbidly obese enough to pose a health risk isn't going to asking anyone if they look fat is this.

[heyseuss]

You should leave health concerns between a woman and her doctor. It's not your place to give out health advice to another adult.

Are you fcking serious? That's insanely retarded mash. We're talking about loved ones here, no matter what the risk, obesity, anorexia, alochol, etc, if the person isn't seeing a doctor about it, it's perfectly normal for someone who loves that person to suggest they do. It's 100% my responsibility to help. I don't care how fat they get until it's unhealthy. Beyond that, yes, it is my place to give out helath advice.

[masherscf]

Are you fcking serious? That's insanely retarded mash. We're talking about loved ones here, no matter what the risk, obesity, anorexia, alochol, etc, if the person isn't seeing a doctor about it, it's perfectly normal for someone who loves that person to suggest they do. It's 100% my responsibility to help. I don't care how fat they get until it's unhealthy. Beyond that, yes, it is my place to give out health advice.

First, tone it down.

Second, if the person has one of the serious health problems you list AND they're your spouse, sibling, parent or child, It is your place to say something. But, in no other circumstance is it your place so say anything.

However, you escalated the original context. If a women is asking you about a few vanity pounds, you don't have license to tell her she's fat. Even if you think she is fat.

Most grown adults, especially women, have a yearly physical. This is the proper context for any concerns related to weight to be addressed.

[heyseuss]

[Edit - sorry dude, I complete F*ed up your post by accident as I tried to reply, sorry for the confusion please feel free to repost]

[diane]

Okay, to slightly change the subject, sometimes, women need to freak out. It won't take long, it might involve crying, but they will pull it together in a few minutes. Don't try and fix it, don't try and take her side, just let her vent. If possible, have her curl into you and let it out. Afterwards, kiss her, hug her, and then don't mention it unless she brings it up.

Women do have some odd pressures on them, heck I feel like I have to be "on" all the time. We are judged at work on not just performance but all sorts of things that shouldn't impact our jobs, and yet do (I work in an office of women, trust me on this one).

Then there is family issues and friends, it can be a little overwhelming. And we always have to be strong, otherwise we are just being girly and can't hack it. Sometimes, it would be nice to be weak and not have it come to bite us in the butt.

Showing that you can let her be vulnerable in front of you, and that it won't negatively impact the relationship or her (like teasing her about it) will do amazing things. Plus, it will make it a lot easier in convincing her to dress up as Princess Leia, Xena, Wonderwoman, or whatever you're into.

That was the coolest part about Sin City by the way, when the doc freaks out and Mickey Rourke, does the voice over. It amazed me how right they got that.

Oh, and for the love of Pete, don't expect her to be your mother.

[wizmaster]

Okay, to slightly change the subject, sometimes, women need to freak out. It won't take long, it might involve crying, but they will pull it together in a few minutes. Don't try and fix it, don't try and take her side, just let her vent. If possible, have her curl into you and let it out. Afterwards, kiss her, hug her, and then don't mention it unless she brings it up.

Women do have some odd pressures on them, heck I feel like I have to be "on" all the time. We are judged at work on not just performance but all sorts of things that shouldn't impact our jobs, and yet do (I work in an office of women, trust me on this one).

Then there is family issues and friends, it can be a little overwhelming. And we always have to be strong, otherwise we are just being girly and can't hack it. Sometimes, it would be nice to be weak and not have it come to bite us in the butt.

Showing that you can let her be vulnerable in front of you, and that it won't negatively impact the relationship or her (like teasing her about it) will do amazing things. Plus, it will make it a lot easier in convincing her to dress up as Princess Leia, Xena, Wonderwoman, or whatever you're into.

That was the coolest part about Sin City by the way, when the doc freaks out and Mickey Rourke, does the voice over. It amazed me how right they got that.

Oh, and for the love of Pete, don't expect her to be your mother.

Sold.

Lol, jking but it seems like good advice.

[deegraww]

Um so back on topic.

1.) Remember important dates - Birthdays, Anniversaries, First anythings
2.) Listen - Don't just wait for your turn to talk. This goes for people in general
3.) Try new things - Be it new places to eat, activities, anything.
4.) Spend time apart - Be a couple but don't loose yourself. Have nights were you aren't with each other but with different friends or alone.

That's about all I've got. I've also come to find in recent months that Singing and playing guitar for something has a positive effect (mostly on women).

[masherscf]

Um so back on topic.

1.) Remember important dates - Birthdays, Anniversaries, First anythings



Man invented monogamy so he'd only have to remember one birthday.

[deegraww]

Man invented monogamy so he'd only have to remember one birthday.

Correction Women invented Monogamy.

[masherscf]

Correction Women invented Monogamy.

I like to think of it was a "mutual" decision. That is, a decision made by two people in a relationship, as most decisions are made in that circumstance... You're right, it was the woman after all...

[tokenuser]

how about you put the seat down and i just mapquest everything?My wife just said yes to me buying a GPS. I'll never not have to ask for directions again. I wish she said it YESTERDAY when I could have bought it and made it useful for a trip I need to take in New Joisey over the next couple of days, but nooooooo ... I have spent the morning printing out all my google map driving directions.

As for the toilet seat thing ... yeah, I am well trained (pu55y whipped is the technial term I think :) )

[masherscf]

As for the toilet seat thing ... yeah, I am well trained (pu55y whipped is the technial term I think :) )

I prefer to think of it as "picking your battles..."

[deegraww]

As for the toilet seat thing ... yeah, I am well trained (pu55y whipped is the technial term I think :) )

You would think after one time of getting a soaked ass you would learn to look before you sit. But I grew up with two sisters so i'm already trained :(

[nlatimer]

You guys really don't know how to have fun. Between one arguement after another, and giving tips on how to be a good boyfriend not a rad one, I think you guys kind of missed the point.

[deegraww]

You guys really don't know how to have fun. Between one arguement after another, and giving tips on how to be a good boyfriend not a rad one, I think you guys kind of missed the point.

Then show us the light!

[masherscf]

You guys really don't know how to have fun. Between one arguement after another, and giving tips on how to be a good boyfriend not a rad one, I think you guys kind of missed the point.

Well, I got the being a good husband and father down. Maybe it's time to work on being a good boyfriend after all.

Being a good partner is not rocket science. Be considerate and communicative and keep expectations on the same level.

[deegraww]

Well, I got the being a good husband and father down. Maybe it's time to work on being a good boyfriend after all.

Being a good partner is not rocket science. Be considerate and communicative and keep expectations on the same level.

Hey wants tips to be a "Rad" BF/GF not a "Good" one.

[masherscf]

Hey wants tips to be a "Rad" BF/GF not a "Good" one.

I'm a math professor, I don't think I can be Rad at anything...

[nlatimer]

I'm a math professor, I don't think I can be Rad at anything...

Insert joke here about Radians and Radicals

[diane]

All my rad suggestions aren't appropriate for this family-friendly board.

[deegraww]

All my rad suggestions aren't appropriate for this family-friendly board.

Private messages can be sent C/O Deegraww TRS Forums.

[heyseuss]

All my rad suggestions aren't appropriate for this family-friendly board.

WOW that's a loaded statement. Good one Diane. Very funny.

[masherscf]

Insert joke here about Radians and Radicals

Touche', I forgot about Radical expressions.

[kronos6948]

Sorry for being a

http://content.answers.com/main/content/wp/en-commons/thumb/9/9e/300px-Vasnetsov_Grave_digger.JPG

but I think this thread needs to be resurrected in the hopes that someone will actually stick to the topic.

IMO, for a girlfriend to be totally rad for ME (Because, this is subjective after all), she has to be totally into Star Trek, but not so much that she thinks it's ok to wear Klingon foreheads everywhere we go.

She has to love movies, and not just "heartwarming tales of love". Sure, the occasional chick flick is fine (read:tolerable), but if that's all you're into, then you're not into me.

She has to understand that sometimes men need to be men and make fart jokes, have an occasional beer, and hang with the guys.

She has to have an open mind when it comes to bedroom negotiations (and no, I don't mean that she immediately has to do certain nasty things). Things to make it fun and interesting.

She has to enjoy the occasional dirty joke, and have a sense of humor that spans many different things. I would want her to make her own Monty Python references, and also be able to sit there and die laughing at Blazing Saddles.

She'd have to be a bit touchy feely since I like PDA's (Public Displays of Affection, not Personal Digital Assistant-although if she has one, it's ok).

She DEFINITELY has to be smart. Nothing's a bigger turn on for me than big brains, as long as she's not arrogant about it.

Geek habits - e.g. comic book collecting, gaming, LARPing is cool (to an extent), etc.

She's got to be a huge music fan. I don't mind if she doesn't primarily listen to what I listen to, but she's gotta love that I play. If she plays too, then that's a plus.

And last, she has to be attractive. This goes for anyone. I don't think anyone would date anyone they didn't find attractive in one way or another.

[diane]

...She has to understand that sometimes men need to be men and make fart jokes, have an occasional beer, and hang with the guys...

The question I have is what if she also likes fart jokes, having an occasional beer and hanging with the guys, is that to tomboyish or not?

[mr-smith]

The question I have is what if she also likes fart jokes, having an occasional beer and hanging with the guys, is that to tomboyish or not?

I don't think that classifies you as tomboyish. Having a female that likes doing those things can add to a relationship. In some cases though, liking EVERYTHING your partner likes can react negatively. Contrast is what makes relationships interesting, and that is what will keep things interesting.

[heyseuss]

The question I have is what if she also likes fart jokes, having an occasional beer and hanging with the guys, is that to tomboyish or not?


No, it's not too tomboyish. But it doesn't matter, he's just tyring to communicate that, every now and then the man needs to wander around in the woods and feel manly. Just like you needing to every now and then spend hours trying on shoes.

[diane]

No, it's not too tomboyish. But it doesn't matter, he's just tyring to communicate that, every now and then the man needs to wander around in the woods and feel manly. Just like you needing to every now and then spend hours trying on shoes.

Okay, very funny, but actually as much as I love my shoes, I am in and out of stores. For me it would be the bookstore. That can take hours.

[serenity]

I don't think that classifies you as tomboyish. Having a female that likes doing those things can add to a relationship. In some cases though, liking EVERYTHING your partner likes can react negatively. Contrast is what makes relationships interesting, and that is what will keep things interesting.

I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes, because I like too much of the same things he does and I'm not at all girly so there is no great contrast between us.
I like mostly all the same shows (Except for when he loved Andromeda, blech), a lot of the same music, the same movies and I'm so extremely rarely in makeup and a dress there has to be a wedding or a funeral for you to find me that way. I hate shopping (unless it's for books or electronics I can actually afford) and I don't have any girlfriends...

You would think it's a good thing because we get along so well (and it works for me just fine!) but I wish sometimes I could be that "hot geeky chick" who has her nails done, looks pretty all the time and who's into all the cool and weird stuff he doesn't even know about (or care about) yet.

[kronos6948]

The question I have is what if she also likes fart jokes, having an occasional beer and hanging with the guys, is that to tomboyish or not?


Nah, not at all.. I think it adds to a woman when she can be tomboyish.

I think Heyseuss and Mr. Smith explained what I meant best.

I definitely appreciate a woman who can take a dutch oven and laugh about it.

[kronos6948]

I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes, because I like too much of the same things he does and I'm not at all girly so there is no great contrast between us.
I like mostly all the same shows (Except for when he loved Andromeda, blech), a lot of the same music, the same movies and I'm so extremely rarely in makeup and a dress there has to be a wedding or a funeral for you to find me that way. I hate shopping (unless it's for books or electronics I can actually afford) and I don't have any girlfriends...

You would think it's a good thing because we get along so well (and it works for me just fine!) but I wish sometimes I could be that "hot geeky chick" who has her nails done, looks pretty all the time and who's into all the cool and weird stuff he doesn't even know about (or care about) yet.

Has he expressed displeasure in the fact that you're that much like him? If not, then you're fine and you're just letting your imagination get the best of you. I'm sure there are other things that are different besides the different genitalia. Even if it's not much, it's still something.

[darthender]

Do her in the pooper.

[diane]

I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes, because I like too much of the same things he does and I'm not at all girly so there is no great contrast between us.
I like mostly all the same shows (Except for when he loved Andromeda, blech), a lot of the same music, the same movies and I'm so extremely rarely in makeup and a dress there has to be a wedding or a funeral for you to find me that way. I hate shopping (unless it's for books or electronics I can actually afford) and I don't have any girlfriends...

You would think it's a good thing because we get along so well (and it works for me just fine!) but I wish sometimes I could be that "hot geeky chick" who has her nails done, looks pretty all the time and who's into all the cool and weird stuff he doesn't even know about (or care about) yet.

Oh Serenity, we need to meet. I am going to give you such a big hug. Though I have my girly aspects, I can relate. I do my nails myself, but that because they are often being used to open things or as a screwdriver. I don't think I even own a dress that isn't Halloween related (though I do own suits with skirts). I do always have lipstick but I only wear anything else when I need to. Considering that I am a yuppie in most senses, I am really out of step. And the only females I talk to are due to work or the PTA, all my friends are guys.
Many times I have wanted to be that "hot geeky chick" but for all my drive, the very idea of putting in the money, time and energy, and then have to wear tights or hose, on purpose, is just too much for me. How can I climb on the jungle gym with the kid in a dress?
And living where I do, I really embody the Misfit song from Rudolph.
It's nice to know I am not the only one.

[ariastar]

Buy her a dozen puppies. Girls like puppies better than flowers and what says I love you more then a dozen puppies I mean it's just simple math 1 puppy = aww! 12 puppies = OMGZ AWWZ!!!!

No, I'm sorry. You are incorrect.

Buy her 12 kittens.

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/cat_proximity.png

Kittens rule over puppies when it comes to the ladies.

Never never NEVER get an animal as a gift without the other person's knowledge and desire to take care of an animal for life, and help picking it out. Even jokingly, please don't. Animals end up in shelters for this.

[beautiful-nightmare]

Reading this thread makes me wish I had a boyfriend. Dang.

[ariastar]

Cody cleans and makes me Madeleines, surprises me with candle-light bubble baths, has adopted Emma and Yoda as his own (mega points), takes care of me when I'm sick and pampers me out of love, not a presumption that I can't do things for myself, respects me, and cherishes me. He's willing to put up with my mood swings, bringing up the same topic ten days in a row that depresses me, lets me cry or gripe without making me feel like it annoys him, is supporting of my ED and trying to help me recover from it without making it seem a burden to him, and walks Emma at 4am. This like this are what make him an incredible boyfriend/future husband.

Also I suggested a letter-opener size version of Narsil (Aragorn's sword) to cut our wedding cake thinking there's no way he'd go for a real one. But then he vetoed the mini one and said, How about the full-size real thing? How cool would it be to whip out a 53" sword to cut wedding cake?

Be like him, guys.

[heyseuss]

I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes, because I like too much of the same things he does and I'm not at all girly so there is no great contrast between us.


That's completely and utterly not true. You do plenty of very girly things that he appreciates ( I know this for certain ). And unless your vagina looks like his penis, you guys have plenty of contrast. X and Y are similar, but not that similar.

I'm sure his band time is very guy time.

P.S. On a sidenote, I was just on internet radio while I was posting this.

[ariastar]

I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes, because I like too much of the same things he does and I'm not at all girly so there is no great contrast between us.
I like mostly all the same shows (Except for when he loved Andromeda, blech), a lot of the same music, the same movies and I'm so extremely rarely in makeup and a dress there has to be a wedding or a funeral for you to find me that way. I hate shopping (unless it's for books or electronics I can actually afford) and I don't have any girlfriends...

You would think it's a good thing because we get along so well (and it works for me just fine!) but I wish sometimes I could be that "hot geeky chick" who has her nails done, looks pretty all the time and who's into all the cool and weird stuff he doesn't even know about (or care about) yet.

Well, if you changed into that type of chick, he may not like you as much. But he loves you as you are now.

[joymarie]

Understand that I get that you KNOW how to fix my computer/car/toilet/whatever and could do it in 30 minutes, but I want to at least TRY to figure it out myself. I may take 5 hours to do it... and I know you could have done it way faster and maybe better... but I can do it myself.... and you are expected to celebrate with me when I actually do fix it :D (Part of being a girl is that sometimes we get to be irrational ;))

[patch]

(Part of being a girl is that sometimes we get to be irrational ;))

Somtimes..?

[berrex]

Reading this thread makes me wish I had a boyfriend. Dang.

I'm in the same boat (but change boyfriend to girlfriend), but look on the bright side: in nine days, we'll both be saving tons of money by not having to buy V-day gifts! :D

Though in all seriousness I still wouldn't mind having a girlfriend anyways for the sake of having the company, if nothing else.

[mr-smith]

Understand that I get that you KNOW how to fix my computer/car/toilet/whatever and could do it in 30 minutes, but I want to at least TRY to figure it out myself. I may take 5 hours to do it... and I know you could have done it way faster and maybe better... but I can do it myself.... and you are expected to celebrate with me when I actually do fix it :D (Part of being a girl is that sometimes we get to be irrational ;))

If I were to walk in a room and a girlfriend of mine ever were to have her hands in a computer case... I don't know if I could control myself... I love it when girls work on electronics. If they want to fix it themselves, I have absolutely no problem with that Joy.

[deegraww]

Man I re-read this thread there is some funny stuff in here. Granted it wasn't all about being "Rad" but just a good partner to someone else.

It would be hard to do a general "Be rad to your partner" thread. To me a girl that isn't into the things i'm in to but will try it because I enjoy it is rad. Like Alex talking about his GF thinking about trying to play WoW with him to understand why he enjoy's it so much is just plain out Rad.

[heyseuss]

Though in all seriousness I still wouldn't mind having a girlfriend anyways for the sake of having the company, if nothing else.

I have an ant farm.

[tamtamg]

Fellas, get a pen and note pad out. If you ever need a good go to date or want to do something nice for your girl, this is what you do.

1. Pick her up, give her flowers (if your an old school classy type) or a corny inside joke gift if your at that point in your relationship.
2. Take her to a book store and have her pick out the recipes(appatizers, main dish, and desert) that she's always wanted to try, and buy said cook book(s) for her.
3. Head over to the grocery store buy all the ingredients for the meal. Don't forget the wine.
4. Cook said meal with her.
5. Eat
6. Enjoy the rest of the night. ;)

Trust me, it works. I'm sure all the ladies on this board would agree that this would be a most excellent date and would brag about how rad/awsome their boyfriend is to all their friends.

Can't cook? Who cares, its not the point of the date (but a big bonus if you can). The purpose of the date is that it gives you plenty of talking points and it shows that you care enough about her to do something nice for her. Good for anything from first date to anniversary. Your all welcome.

[heyseuss]

Fellas, get a pen and note pad out. If you ever need a good go to date or want to do something nice for your girl, this is what you do.

1. Pick her up, give her flowers (if your an old school classy type) or a corny inside joke gift if your at that point in your relationship.
2. Take her to a book store and have her pick out the recipes(appatizers, main dish, and desert) that she's always wanted to try, and buy said cook book(s) for her.
3. Head over to the grocery store buy all the ingredients for the meal. Don't forget the wine.
4. Cook said meal with her.
5. Eat
6. Enjoy the rest of the night. ;)

Trust me, it works. I'm sure all the ladies on this board would agree that this would be a most excellent date and would brag about how rad/awsome their boyfriend is to all their friends.

Can't cook? Who cares, its not the point of the date (but a big bonus if you can). The purpose of the date is that it gives you plenty of talking points and it shows that you care enough about her to do something nice for her. Good for anything from first date to anniversary. Your all welcome.

What is this BS? Are you saying a bottle of Apple Pucker and a Wendy's meal followed by a night of cow tipping doesn't work anymore? I'm astonished.

[tamtamg]

What is this BS? Are you saying a bottle of Apple Pucker and a Wendy's meal followed by a night of cow tipping doesn't work anymore? I'm astonished.

Wendy's? No way man, you gotta go to a classier establishment like a Steak n Shake!

[berrex]

I have an ant farm.

Hah, well that's a close second.

[zombierin]

What is this BS? Are you saying a bottle of Apple Pucker and a Wendy's meal followed by a night of cow tipping doesn't work anymore? I'm astonished.

Works for me.

[kronos6948]

I'm a big fan of the "You want to smell my new cologne? It's in this rag.." and then she gets the chloroform.

[deegraww]

I normally get them in the car then hit the trunk monkey button and have him club her over the head. That's just me, that's how I roll.

[mr-smith]

I'm a big fan of the "You want to smell my new cologne? It's in this rag.." and then she gets the chloroform.

I will forever remember this one... and use it as often as I can.

[deegraww]

I will forever remember this one... and use it as often as I can.

until the men in blue take you away in handcuffs

[mr-smith]

until the men in blue take you away in handcuffs

*Nervous Twitches*

The men in white have to come fit me for my new coat first...

[diane]

Okay, this has gotten just a little creepy guys.

[deegraww]

Okay, this has gotten just a little creepy guys.

Yeah sorry about that. I bought big trouble in little china at target for 4.50 on DVD. If a girl likes that movie and will watch it with me. I hence dub her rad.

[kronos6948]

Okay, this has gotten just a little creepy guys.

It's all in good fun. Just jokes, you know?



By the way, you wanna smell my new cologne?

J/K :D

[diane]

Yeah sorry about that. I bought big trouble in little china at target for 4.50 on DVD. If a girl likes that movie and will watch it with me. I hence dub her rad.

Hysterical! I bought it at Target for $4.50 too. I love Target. It has everything I need or want and I can get in and out before the kid starts to whine.

I have never seen that movie but after the guys kept referencing it, I had to pick it up, especially for that price.

[deegraww]

Hysterical! I bought it at Target for $4.50 too. I love Target. It has everything I need or want and I can get in and out before the kid starts to whine.

I have never seen that movie but after the guys kept referencing it, I had to pick it up, especially for that price.

It's great I grew up watching it and it was the only reason I still had a VHS player.

[ariastar]

I had a different girlfriend looking at herself in the mirror. She sighed and said "I've got to get to the gym", and I replied, out of the corner of my mouth in a dry and over-sarcastic tone of voice, "yeh, you sure do chunky". ... When she started crying, I didn't feel that sorry. My voice and the way I said it was thoroughly sarcastic, it was akin to saying "as if", but she didn't pick up on that becasue she was already making herself feel bad needlessly. I don't care about these kinds of things about myself personally. Pretty secure about all of me, regardless of the state. I certainly wouldn't be affected by someone elses opinions either, so I don't know why people ask each other, "what do you think about me?".

Wrong thing to say. For all you know, she was thinking about toning more than weight loss. And she wasn't asking your opinion anyway simply by saying that she needs to get to the gym.

[ariastar]

Totally screwed up this post.

[ariastar]

Man invented monogamy so he'd only have to remember one birthday.

Correction Women invented Monogamy.

I like to think of it was a "mutual" decision. That is, a decision made by two people in a relationship, as most decisions are made in that circumstance... You're right, it was the woman after all...

I've had friends who are polygamous. A decision made among all parties. If one believes there to be monogamy, and another doesn't stop that belief, then you've got cheating.

[ariastar]

If a women is asking you about a few vanity pounds, you don't have license to tell her she's fat. Even if you think she is fat.

Depends on the woman and the relationship. If I ask Cody if something looks good, I expect the truth. If something makes me look fatter or is unflattering, I want the truth. Our relationship has this thing called honesty rather than false flattery. The good things said mean more when you know they're true rather than just someone trying to not say anything bad.


Most grown adults, especially women, have a yearly physical. This is the proper context for any concerns related to weight to be addressed.

Adults with insurance, that is. And since appointments tend to be so short, if a woman doesn't bring something up, a doctor's not likely to address it when the money is in seeing as many patients as possible Ideally a doc would sport something, no matter what. But hell, a lot of fat people are outright offended if a doctor suggests losing weight for health.

[ariastar]

Fellas, get a pen and note pad out. If you ever need a good go to date or want to do something nice for your girl, this is what you do.

1. Pick her up, give her flowers (if your an old school classy type) or a corny inside joke gift if your at that point in your relationship.
2. Take her to a book store and have her pick out the recipes(appatizers, main dish, and desert) that she's always wanted to try, and buy said cook book(s) for her.
3. Head over to the grocery store buy all the ingredients for the meal. Don't forget the wine.
4. Cook said meal with her.
5. Eat
6. Enjoy the rest of the night. ;)

Trust me, it works. I'm sure all the ladies on this board would agree that this would be a most excellent date and would brag about how rad/awsome their boyfriend is to all their friends.

Can't cook? Who cares, its not the point of the date (but a big bonus if you can). The purpose of the date is that it gives you plenty of talking points and it shows that you care enough about her to do something nice for her. Good for anything from first date to anniversary. Your all welcome.

An even better thing is to make her dinner while serving her wine. A man cooking a nice meal is incredibly sexy.

[ariastar]

What is this BS? Are you saying a bottle of Apple Pucker and a Wendy's meal followed by a night of cow tipping doesn't work anymore? I'm astonished.

For a fun night for laughs, this type of thing would be excellent.

[heyseuss]

Wrong thing to say. For all you know, she was thinking about toning more than weight loss. And she wasn't asking your opinion anyway simply by saying that she needs to get to the gym.

If I hug and kiss you and say in the most sarcastic tone possible, "I hate you so much", you still get it right? Or do you really think I hate you?

And that's not an opinion I was giving. Out of context it's a supportive statement of agreement justifying her. In context, with the sarcasm I drenched the words in, it's a direct juxtaposition to her statement, being as she did not need to go the gym, looked fine, and should have been happy with her body the way it was. Nodding sternly and saying, "yeah, right" is very different from shaking my head, rolling my eyes and saying, "scchyyeah riiiigghtt". Not that they were physically comparable, but it's as if Paris Hilton said she needed to lose weight, I'd pat her on the head (softly so as to not kill her) and say, condescedingly, "ssssssuuuuuuuurrrrrrrreeeeee". I think the sarcasm doesn't come through in text, but it's similar to how I feel about you, just fine the way you are, and in no need to lose any more weight.

You have to understand, it was first thing in the morning and she was standing naked in front of the mirror assessing her body unhappily, while I was laying in bed behind her admiring it, very much in love with her and VERY happy with how she looked.

Wow, necro-post.

[heyseuss]

For a fun night for laughs, this type of thing would be excellent.

A date to me is, take-out, wine or what you prefer, a joint, a couch and an irrelevant viewing choice.

[ariastar]

A list of things that makes Cody an amazing boyfriend (and these things work for pretty much anyone):

He's attentive without smothering. Smothering is bad and makes a girl pissy. If I want some time to myself, he's nearby without being too close, but close enough in case I want a hug.

He cooks. Doesn't matter if he's making sloppy joe's or chocolate soufflé, as he did at 1am last night. Cooking for a girl is a show of love.

He cleans. This is our home together, and by contributing to the care of it shows that he values my time and relaxation instead of expecting me to come home and do it all.

He immediately accepted all my animals as ours, and takes care of them too. If Emma needs to be walked, he takes her out. If Yoda needs food, he feeds him. He cuddles with the critters, and has made the who messload of them (nine dogs and a cat) OUR family and joint responsibility.

When my eating disorder makes it so I have no energy to move, rather than act disappointed, he makes me something he knows I'll eat and spend time comforting me rather than lecturing. He doesn't approve, but he respects that some things are not exactly within my control.

He may not care much for musicals and movies like Titanic, but I love them, and so he'll watch them with me. I'm not one to watch these things every day just to make him squirm, but we spend time together doing things with each other that the other likes. Sharing our different interests and likes.

I love bubble baths and candles, so sometimes he'll say he's going to the bathroom, then will call me a few minutes later and he's run a nice, hot bath.

He supports my endeavors and what I like to do, be it ballet or sewing.

If I ask if something looks good, he's honest with me. If I didn't value his real opinion, I wouldn't ask, so he respects me enough to tell the truth instead of lie.

We take time specifically to focus on why we're still together. When a day is bad or stressful, it's easy to forget to think about the positive and instead see each other through a fog of stress and maybe even misplace the stress onto the other person, even if the other had nothing to do with it. So we take time to think about the good and relax.

We don't take for granted loving each other. Even though we both know we love each other, we say it. We're rarely within a few feet of each other without at least a quick hug or kiss and an "I love you."


What are the common elements here? Respect for me and a desire for me to be happy.

But if your girl doesn't do the same back, respect and want her guy happy, then there's a problem.

These things need to be mutual.


A couple other things. We know no relationship will be without its problems, but that doesn't mean to give up and look for something else. We've had arguments, admittedly usually because I'm being emotional or pissy. We're in a tight spot financially right now recovering from moving expenses still (two moves in a month for him, one for me, to get to our current townhouse). But neither of us are under the false illusion of a perfect relationship or with the mistaken idea that this means to break up. The little hurdles make for stronger legs to leap over bigger hurdles later.

We were friends for a year and a half before entering a relationship. We've seen each other through other relationships and break-ups. We're even friends with each other's most recent exes. We have a friendship with each other rather than just a sexual relationship.

We are both dedicated to each other and on the same page. We know they will be times when we can't stand each other and may need a few weeks apart. There is nothing wrong with this. My parents took breaks and then got back together with a sense of freshness. Usually this happened when they lost sight of themselves as individuals.

It's not perfect, but it's pretty damned good what we've got together.

[serenity]

Has he expressed displeasure in the fact that you're that much like him? If not, then you're fine and you're just letting your imagination get the best of you. I'm sure there are other things that are different besides the different genitalia. Even if it's not much, it's still something.

I forgot about this thread!
:P

No, actually he says he hates makeup (though he wishes I would wear a skirt more often than "never") and doesn't care about nail polish and such so... yeah. I'm very, very lucky. Maybe it's just me that wants me a little more girly, lol.

Thanks Seuss and Aria as well. :D

[ike6116]

I feel like everything in this thread that didn't read:

"Suck cock"

or

"Lick box"


was a waste of time.

[heyseuss]

I forgot about this thread!
:P

No, actually he says he hates makeup (though he wishes I would wear a skirt more often than "never") and doesn't care about nail polish and such so... yeah. I'm very, very lucky. Maybe it's just me that wants me a little more girly, lol.

Thanks Seuss and Aria as well. :D

I like skirts. Alot. Your long sticks in a skirt would be interesting. I know I've used it before but, climb you like a redwood I would. Don't like make-up either. I don't want to wake up next to a different girl I fell asleep too.

[serenity]

I feel like everything in this thread that didn't read:

"Suck cock"

or

"Lick box"


was a waste of time.


Hey guys, I think I found that last romantic man!


Do me. Do me now.

[heyseuss]

Hey guys, I think I found that last romantic man!

Do me. Do me now.

I know you're joking, but that still turned me on.


HAHA just kidding, I'm joking, that didn't turn me on. Did you think I'm serious? Oh you're funny. I mean come on, pfffttt. As if. How could that small set of suggestive words turn me on? Schyeah right, whatever, don't flatter yourself. Turned on by that, oh how I laugh. You crack me up.





:o Is it hot in here ? I'm parched.

[serenity]

I know you're joking, but that still turned me on.


HAHA just kidding, I'm joking, that didn't turn me on. Did you think I'm serious? Oh you're funny. I mean come on, pfffttt. As if. How could that small set of suggestive words turn me on? Schyeah right, whatever, don't flatter yourself. Turned on by that, oh how I laugh. You crack me up.





:o Is it hot in here ? I'm parched.


You sound a little nervous there Mr. Nervsey McNeversons, I almost see Rodney Dangerfield, haha.
Take a cold shower and do me in the morning. I mean call, CALL me in the morning, whew!
:D

[heyseuss]

You sound a little nervous there Mr. Nervsey McNeversons, I almost see Rodney Dangerfield, haha.
Take a cold shower and do me in the morning. I mean call, CALL me in the morning, whew!
:D

*makes shooting fingers* You got it baby, I'll talk to you then. Should I nudge you, or meet you in the kitchen for breakfast ?

[ugly-casanova32]

Apparently I wasn't a rad enough boyfriend, I just got dumped 2 days ago...:(

[deegraww]

Apparently I wasn't a rad enough boyfriend, I just got dumped 2 days ago...:(

Happens to the best of us. And to the two above you, Get a room oh and don't mind the night vision camera's in the air vents, they aren't set to record... yet

[kronos6948]

Apparently I wasn't a rad enough boyfriend, I just got dumped 2 days ago...:(

Never judge your worth by whether or not someone stays with you.

Peoples tastes change, and some people just aren't compatible. While you may have really cared for your ex, deep down she probably still cares for you too. If later down the line she decides that maybe she made the wrong decision, then that's her mistake to live with. Who knows, further on down the road you two could become better friends than you could ever be as lovers.

I know you feel devastated now, but as you move further along, you'll start thinking of what the real reasons behind the break-up were, and most likely realize that you were better off without her anyway.

Look at it this way...now you're free. Enjoy your bachelor life. Do all the things you couldn't do because you were with her.

And, eventually when you're happy with yourself, and content being single, maybe someone else will come along that will knock your socks off and totally be the right one. Just don't expect it or look for it because then you'll put yourself into a cycle of disappointment and expectations.

[deegraww]

Never judge your worth by whether or not someone stays with you.

Peoples tastes change, and some people just aren't compatible. While you may have really cared for your ex, deep down she probably still cares for you too. If later down the line she decides that maybe she made the wrong decision, then that's her mistake to live with. Who knows, further on down the road you two could become better friends than you could ever be as lovers.

I know you feel devastated now, but as you move further along, you'll start thinking of what the real reasons behind the break-up were, and most likely realize that you were better off without her anyway.

Look at it this way...now you're free. Enjoy your bachelor life. Do all the things you couldn't do because you were with her.

And, eventually when you're happy with yourself, and content being single, maybe someone else will come along that will knock your socks off and totally be the right one. Just don't expect it or look for it because then you'll put yourself into a cycle of disappointment and expectations.

That's what I ment by my post thanks for clearing that up for me haha.

[enemybrick]

An interesting note, I work at a Whole Foods here in chicago, in the middle of a neighborhood called Boystown because of its predominantly gay population. In our store, we have just sold out of organic lubricant for valentine's day, and we stocked 4 times what we usually do.
So, thats something rad you can do, hit up the organic lube, help the enviornment while you help yourself....

[ugly-casanova32]

Never judge your worth by whether or not someone stays with you.

Peoples tastes change, and some people just aren't compatible. While you may have really cared for your ex, deep down she probably still cares for you too. If later down the line she decides that maybe she made the wrong decision, then that's her mistake to live with. Who knows, further on down the road you two could become better friends than you could ever be as lovers.

I know you feel devastated now, but as you move further along, you'll start thinking of what the real reasons behind the break-up were, and most likely realize that you were better off without her anyway.

Look at it this way...now you're free. Enjoy your bachelor life. Do all the things you couldn't do because you were with her.

And, eventually when you're happy with yourself, and content being single, maybe someone else will come along that will knock your socks off and totally be the right one. Just don't expect it or look for it because then you'll put yourself into a cycle of disappointment and expectations.

Wow, thank you. I actually feel a lot better.

[kronos6948]

Wow, thank you. I actually feel a lot better.

Glad to be of service.

[irishpunk]

In my opinion, I don't have that much experience to speak of when it comes to being a boyfriend since most of my relationships as of late haven't gone so well.
On a side note, I'm just that type of person who'd take the gal out to the movies to see whatever catches her interest and then later on make her a home cooked meal. That or take her to see a play.