Geeks and Girls

[r0b0t]

I live in houston texas and im a avid gamer and tech guy. i love computers im a hardware enthusiast and i love reading about new tech thats comming out and things like. I love diggnation its a great show.

This latest episode Its ok to be a Geek got me thinking about how i currently do not have a girlfriend and if i did she probably would not be anywhere near as much of a geek as i am.

here if you want to meet women theres acouple of things you do, one you either meet them at school, two the club/bar, or three randomly either through friends or places you hang out. the last option being the least likely atleast for me it is, because all my friends are tech friendly gamers.

now am i some no life loser? no id like to think im a pretty intresting person. However i have the hardest time with this one thing

and that thing is ive only met one girl recently that i think i could truly get along with, she attractive, she plays the same games as me she likes computers and i think she could really like me for who i am. infact im pretty sure i had a shot with her except i do not have a car right now and neither does she so i could not really ask her out or go pick her up or hang out with her. and she lives on the oppisite side of town. now she goes out with a guy that has been mistaken at times for my brother "i guess he looks like me" he plays the same games as me and is a bio enginieer. but hes not established yet. but anyway my point is this, i find myself thinking about this girl alot and i feel like ill never meet a girl like her again. i do not feel intimidated when im around her i can be myself. when we hang out we have alot of fun together. but shes taken and by someone i call a friend. so to forget her, which brings me to the meat of this post.

Where can you meet geeky girls/women that are also attractive that dont hate you for being a "Gamer/Geek"

even with this girl though i could never walk up to her and ask her what a C2D e6600 was and have her with an answer. not that it would be required knowledge but ive yet to hear a girl/woman have anything to say about some new technology or game. and im not sexist by no means, i would be so excited to meet a girl who i could talk to about the episode of digg we just watched or some new tech that was around the corrner.


i dated this one girl that got an iphone, but i know her and she really just had it because it was expensive and new, and before it came out i never heard her talk about it. anyway i think she just got it to get it. she wasnt really into it.

basically what this latest episode reminded me of most is when im out with some girls im acting "as the girl that kevin and alex said not to marry says" "normal" because that seems to appeal to them, and if i started talking about the last level in CoD4 or my level 44 pally on WoW they would instantly be like omg video games are so dumb.

also to give you an idea of how cool the girl is i really like here are some pictures of her.

I decided to wait till i get home before i post a picture. cause im not comfortable with the one i have being online

well for now i only have one picture of her on my phone cause im at work, and its a picture of her kissing another girl. but im sure no one will complain, shes the one on the left.



When it comes down to it i belive that either girls like this are rare or almost do not exsist, or that they are like me and they do not go to clubs and stuff to meet guys so finding a social way to meet what i would call cool girls is difficult. for the most part if i meet a girl at the club or bar we date for awhile and its really just turns out that we are just fufilling physical needs but are not really compatible outside of that. thats pretty much how the girl with the iphone turned out. basically i thought her iphone was cooler than she thought it was, but maybe she got it as a man magnet. i could be wrong about all this

as a final note i agree with kevin and alex though, i dont think he should marry that girl unless shes ready to execept him, like alex said there will be days when hes gaming all day, if she cannot handel that in the end do you want to marry that person?

i have alot more i want to say on this subject but ive already said alot, i think ill kill it here.

hit me up with your feedback. please excuse mispellings and run ons!

[comhcinc]

hmm it seems like you got a couple of problems.

you keep refering to yourself as a geek. i've never understood why people do that. it's a disparaging term use by people to mock you. people who play alot of sports don't refer to themselves as jocks. you are not taking the term back, you are just pigeonholeing yourself, and women don't like that. hell i don't like that.

you are way too hung up on your interest. you will never find a woman who share all your interest. while it is nice to have common interest when you meet a woman, building common interest is much more important.
example. i like college football she doesn't, she likes dog shows, i don't. we both like the show good eats. i watch dog shows with her or i do something with my friends and the same thing goes with football. remember you are not looking for a pal, you already got those, you are looking for some more

[taswizard]

now am i some no life loser? no id like to think im a pretty intresting person. However i have the hardest time with this one thing

Where can you meet geeky girls/women that are also attractive that dont hate you for being a "Gamer/Geek"

When it comes down to it i belive that either girls like this are rare or almost do not exsist, or that they are like me and they do not go to clubs and stuff to meet guys so finding a social way to meet what i would call cool girls is difficult. for the most part if i meet a girl at the club or bar we date for awhile and its really just turns out that we are just fufilling physical needs but are not really compatible outside of that.

I know what you mean. I practically live in the countryside. There are very few people around here that have any interests even remotely similar to me in a 40 mile radius. There are even less people who know anything of Digg - you could count them on one hand.

Because of sheer probability, it makes it extremely difficult to find ANYONE in the area that I can connect with on this level. The thing I realized a while back is that it's near impossible to find just one person that matches you exactly. You find someone you can stand, and that can stand you, and you work at it. If bother people care enough then you'll have a great relationship, if not, there are always more fish in the sea. The point is that very few people fall into good relationships, they build them. Just because there are few people you see now that don't seem to like Diggnation, it doesn't mean they don't like tech. Maybe they just haven't been introduced to it yet.

[ariastar]

Cody and I met through these forums. :) We move into our townhouse in a couple weeks.

Advice: Don't go scratching off as potential girlfriends a girl without an extreme interest in geek stuff. Look for a girl you get along with first. If you can get along with each other, then you've got a good start. It doesn't matter if you share all the same interests. Look for someone who is a compliment to you instead of a mirror. A lot of girls do like geeks, but if you're going to spring a question like that on any girl, you risk running off any girl you may actually like, had you given her the chance.

Don't go looking for a girl with such rigid requirements. A nice girl, intelligent, good heart, is a starting point. REQUIRING this and that as hobbies is not. Your perfect match may be someone who has n interest in tech, but is happy to let you spend a few days geeking out with buddies who are geeks while she pursues her own interests and hobbies.

Don't look too hard. Just have fun dating around. Eventually the right girl for you will come along, but you'll miss her if you're intentionally looking the other way.

[comhcinc]

or you could just get a hooker. nothing wrong with that.....

[balzout]

This is a really interesting topic because I can honestly say that before I found this forum...I really didn't know who I was. I knew I liked tech stuff but was too shy to ever tell anyone. I hated the image of a "geek" or a "nerd" and was trying to be "cool." So many negative connotations (at least back then) seemed to come with being a geek so I suppressed this passion of mine. It was here that I truly found who I was and what I was interested in. It was here that I learned that there were others like myself and that I should be proud of being a "geek." I was like a reborn proclaimed "geek."

Anyway...on to the point. My girlfriend shares no interest in technology or the internet, etc that way I do however this is what makes us interesting. She is from Alabama and if you asked me two years ago if I would ever date someone from Alabama I would say not in a million years. It is like Alex was saying....She tries and thats what important. Your "girlfriend" doesnt have to be interested in the same things you are but at the same time she shouldnt push you to change who you are.

[silentspyder]

or you could just get a hooker. nothing wrong with that.....

That won't get you anywhere.

[comhcinc]

yeah it will, it get you there, for about 20 ;)

[ariastar]

This is a really interesting topic because I can honestly say that before I found this forum...I really didn't know who I was. I knew I liked tech stuff but was too shy to ever tell anyone. I hated the image of a "geek" or a "nerd" and was trying to be "cool." So many negative connotations (at least back then) seemed to come with being a geek so I suppressed this passion of mine. It was here that I truly found who I was and what I was interested in. It was here that I learned that there were others like myself and that I should be proud of being a "geek." I was like a reborn proclaimed "geek."

Anyway...on to the point. My girlfriend shares no interest in technology or the internet, etc that way I do however this is what makes us interesting. She is from Alabama and if you asked me two years ago if I would ever date someone from Alabama I would say not in a million years. It is like Alex was saying....She tries and thats what important. Your "girlfriend" doesnt have to be interested in the same things you are but at the same time she shouldnt push you to change who you are.

That "uncool geek" is the guy rolling in millions. And millions is indeed cool. :)

Your second paragraph is right on.

[comhcinc]

That "uncool geek" is the guy rolling in millions. And millions is indeed cool. :)

Your second paragraph is right on.
but then again so is the "school hero jock" plus he has fans;)

[r0b0t]

hmm it seems like you got a couple of problems.

you keep refering to yourself as a geek. i've never understood why people do that. it's a disparaging term use by people to mock you. people who play alot of sports don't refer to themselves as jocks. you are not taking the term back, you are just pigeonholeing yourself, and women don't like that. hell i don't like that.

you are way too hung up on your interest. you will never find a woman who share all your interest. while it is nice to have common interest when you meet a woman, building common interest is much more important.
example. i like college football she doesn't, she likes dog shows, i don't. we both like the show good eats. i watch dog shows with her or i do something with my friends and the same thing goes with football. remember you are not looking for a pal, you already got those, you are looking for some more

well i do not really think of myself as i geek i was just using that term as a generalization, because of the name of the particular episode and the subject that was brought up with the email at the end.

i agree though your right ill never find a girl that has all the same intrest as me. but perhaps some common ground.

[r0b0t]

Don't go looking for a girl with such rigid requirements. A nice girl, intelligent, good heart, is a starting point. REQUIRING this and that as hobbies is not. Your perfect match may be someone who has n interest in tech, but is happy to let you spend a few days geeking out with buddies who are geeks while she pursues her own interests and hobbies.

Don't look too hard. Just have fun dating around. Eventually the right girl for you will come along, but you'll miss her if you're intentionally looking the other way.

Thats awesome that you met your boyfriend here.

but your right, and my requirements are not that rigid, i was just making a point. but this girl that i thought was perfect for me is alittle tech with some of the same intrest i think it would of worked out, really i guess i just want to find another girl like the one that i had wish i had gotten with. timing was just not right.

[ariastar]

but then again so is the "school hero jock" plus he has fans;)

The jock has a very limited time to be in the spotlight. Plus jocks have kind of lost some of their appeal thanks to steroids. plus they have the pressure to look cool.

[ariastar]

Thats awesome that you met your boyfriend here.

but your right, and my requirements are not that rigid, i was just making a point. but this girl that i thought was perfect for me is alittle tech with some of the same intrest i think it would of worked out, really i guess i just want to find another girl like the one that i had wish i had gotten with. timing was just not right.

She was further from being perfect for you than you thought. You need to take a little time and just play the field a bit. You're looking for someone to fit a mold of someone else with one alteration. People aren't made to order. So just give it time.