Geeks & Girlfriends

[dune73]

Can we start a serious thread here, i wanna make a decent, relevant list following on from the discussion in this weeks diggnation...

Okay, so suggestions on things a girlfriend needs to be aware of to successfully date a geek !

P.S if you are a raving geek and wish to rub our noses in it how well your girlfriend loves you as such, prove it with a picture of you playin WOW and her fondling you hair lol !

[comhcinc]

Okay, so suggestions on things a girlfriend needs to be aware of to successfully date a geek !


dealing with a person who insist on usings a derogatory term for themselves

acne

constant unfunny quoting of lame movies

unhealthy obsession with childhood toys and cartoons

unhealthy obsession with toys and cartoons that just came out

being stronger that the guy

never going out cause mom won't loan the car

never sleeping over cause mom doesn't like it

pizza hut being considered fancy dining

[oxdeltaxo]

dealing with a person who insist on usings a derogatory term for themselves

acne

constant unfunny quoting of lame movies

unhealthy obsession with childhood toys and cartoons

unhealthy obsession with toys and cartoons that just came out

being stronger that the guy

never going out cause mom won't loan the car

never sleeping over cause mom doesn't like it

pizza hut being considered fancy dining

You sound like you referring to 16 y/o tards, not adult geeks. Geek isn't neccessarily a derogatory term lest you take it as such. :\

[comhcinc]

You sound like you referring to 16 y/o tards, not adult geeks.
nope adults. lonely unwashed adults

Geek isn't neccessarily a derogatory term lest you take it as such. :\

you're right, it can also mean a guy who bites the heads off of chickens for money.

[oxdeltaxo]

you're right, it can also mean a guy who bites the heads off of chickens for money.


Indeed it can, but the definition of words change. The same way a dyke can be both an embankment of dirt to prevent floods as well as a lesbian.

Currently we are talking about geeks in the nerdy context rather than the circus freak category.

[comhcinc]

right. have fun calling women "dykes". they won't consider that derogatory at all

[oxdeltaxo]

right. have fun calling women "dykes". they won't consider that derogatory at all

Not just any woman just lesbians, they don't seem to mind.

[dune73]

LMOA... right, im totally on the side of geek not being an insult any more... back in the day of bill gates looking like he just sucked off a circuit board... yea, that was tragic ! now geeks can be the top end of a social ladder ! Im a University student, studying Network Engineering, and geek isnt an issue when im hanging around with the cheerleader society at their moulin rouge evening or doing a drinking marathon with members of the rugby squad...

so enough of that debate !

So, some suggestions would still be appreciated, along the same lines as the ones given i this weeks diggnation please !

[oxdeltaxo]

I unno, I consider myself a geek. It's nothing special, girls come and go the geek factor doesn't seem to affect things. As long as you behave mature girls will talk to you, if you don't you look like the 16 y/o comhcinc described.

[Ryudo]

Long ago I copied and pasted this off a digg story.




the stereotype that once existed is long gone and there are several characteristics of geek culture that could almost be considered chic. Consumating, Threadless, or even Apple are pretty good testaments to this fact.

The picture I'm about to paint is of the ideal, I'm not implying that every perl programmer or 15 year kid who plays WoW all day possesses all these qualities.
You're probably very smart.
It's hip to be geek. Everyone is familiar with the stereotype of thick glasses, a pocket protector, an obsession with star trek, and social skills akin to a sack of potatoes. Times have changed: geeks are often fashionable, hip individuals who are very aligned with the trends of their own generation
You geek out on more than just your computer. Ever seen the movie collection of a film geek? Ever had an automotive geek work on your car? Ever seen the body of a fitness geek? The tenacity of someone like us, when applied to hobbies outside computers and the like, can yield impressive results.
Geek humor is the best humor. This is perhaps a biased opinion, but I've never laughed as hard as I have while reading some of the random, funny things that came out of geek culture.
You listen to good music. Geeks have access to tools that allow us to hear music that extends well beyond top 40 radio. Want the entire discography of Aphex Twin by tomorrow afternoon? Ask a geek. Not only do they listen to good music, they can find just about anything you're looking for in a heartbeat.
You make good money. If there's one stereotype about geeks that usually rings true, it's that they rarely have trouble earning a decent income.
You fix stuff. Everyone loves a handyman, especially one that can fix one of the most frustrating devices ever conceived: a personal computer.
You've got your own stuff going on. You'll never meet a geek who runs out of things to do, they've got lots of hobbies and interests and are more than happy to dive head first into one of those when they've got some spare time. In other words: they won't rely on you to give them a life.
You're very articulate. Compulsively reading a few hundred RSS feeds a day yields a vocabulary that could put most college English majors to shame.
You're passionate. When a geek becomes interested in something, they tend to immerse themselves in it entirely. They'll strip a new gadget down to nuts and bolts and re-build it with an xhtml compliant grappling gun. This intense passion can extend to many areas of a geek's life, not just computers and hobbies.

[nephrito]

I just want to know... Where do you guys meet this geeky chicks?! I live in Orlando, Florida and not once in my life, have I ever met one let alone seen one. Do they even exist?

[Ryudo]

I just want to know... Where do you guys meet this geeky chicks?! I live in Orlando, Florida and not once in my life, have I ever met one let alone seen one. Do they even exist?
Thats' because you live in Florida.
Everyone goes there to die....and when spring break hits ..just the cute girls who like to flash people and hope they appear on a MTV special during spring break.

Sorta how I live in Utah where minorities are a myth and everyone is mormon and each family has one father one mother and 20 children that overachieve at everything in school.

I hear about these geek women mostly in California.....so we both live in places finding that special geek love is like searching for El Dorado.

[nephrito]

I propose we both go on a trip to California, and meet these so called "geek girls" ourselves!

[comhcinc]

i would never want to meet a "geek girl" as they would smell and be lame. just like the guys!

[dune73]

Dude, say hello to geek chick ! and then keep your further opinions inside your tiny brain !

http://cache.kotaku.com/gaming/images/morganwebb.jpg

[comhcinc]

Dude, say hello to geek chick ! and then keep your further opinions inside your tiny brain !

yeah i bet that is pretty sticky, sure you get alooooooot of use out of that pic.
people who are on in the media get paid to "act geeky". it's not real.

[Ryudo]

Dude, say hello to geek chick ! and then keep your further opinions inside your tiny brain !

Don't even respond to him.
He just argues to argue to increase his post count.
No matter what you say he will try and counter it..if you point to the colour black and say it's black he will say it's white.
Just ignore whatever he says.

[dune73]

Ryudo, glad michael jackson doesnt post on this forum then (crap joke, sorry)... thanks for backing us up... suppose some people just exist to make the rest of us look better... !

nice to meet ya mate !

[Ryudo]

Ryudo, glad michael jackson doesnt post on this forum then (crap joke, sorry)... thanks for backing us up... suppose some people just exist to make the rest of us look better... !

nice to meet ya mate !

haha well I like the term geek and it's obvious it's a culture now that people accept as being cool even big companies sometimes use it for marketing to attract business or sell a service or product to even non geeks or geeks themselves.

As for celeb geek women I personally like Kerry from mythbusters.

Reason it's more accepted now is mainly because technology and gaming and stuff is no longer a niche market it's part of everyday life and those once geeky kids like bill gates, steve jobs as two main examples of success or in gaming Will Wright or Mr Miyamoto.

Todays world reeks of geeks because it's more dependent on them anymore.

[AriaStar]

Ryudo, glad michael jackson doesnt post on this forum then (crap joke, sorry)... thanks for backing us up... suppose some people just exist to make the rest of us look better... !

nice to meet ya mate !

You make yourself look good by posting interesting things, not by saying an elite member exists to make YOU look good. Ryudo's earned respect here, you haven't.

[Ilovemygeek]

So my boyfriend sent me a link to the episode of Diggnation discussing the fiance who wanted her betrothed to be more "normal" instead of geeky.

I used to be her. But now I'm not. How?

I have always been a geek groupie, but without understanding what dating a geek would truly mean to my life. When I started dating geeks, i would ask, exasperatingly, for normalcy. What I meant was "Why is the computer more interesting than me?" What I didn't understand was the men I dated needed down time--time away from face to face contact to emotionally recharge. I needed to learn that most geeks require more of this than other people. My current geek, who I absolutely adore!, definitely needs more of this than most people. It is frustrating, but we wouldn't be together anymore if I hadn't learned how to be patient and actually ask for what I want. I need more time with him than he sometimes wants to give. But because he loves me too, he does his best to give me what I need. And because I love him, i ask for what I need, and not necessarily everything I want.

My rather long-winded point is: Be patient with her. She may not know how to ask yet, but she may just need to know she is just as important as WoW. And you never know, once she learns, maybe she'll become a Dranei Hunter too. Just like I did.

[Heyseuss]

So my boyfriend sent me a link to the episode of Diggnation discussing the fiance who wanted her betrothed to be more "normal" instead of geeky.

I used to be her. But now I'm not. How?

I have always been a geek groupie, but without understanding what dating a geek would truly mean to my life. When I started dating geeks, i would ask, exasperatingly, for normalcy. What I meant was "Why is the computer more interesting than me?" What I didn't understand was the men I dated needed down time--time away from face to face contact to emotionally recharge. I needed to learn that most geeks require more of this than other people. My current geek, who I absolutely adore!, definitely needs more of this than most people. It is frustrating, but we wouldn't be together anymore if I hadn't learned how to be patient and actually ask for what I want. I need more time with him than he sometimes wants to give. But because he loves me too, he does his best to give me what I need. And because I love him, i ask for what I need, and not necessarily everything I want.

My rather long-winded point is: Be patient with her. She may not know how to ask yet, but she may just need to know she is just as important as WoW. And you never know, once she learns, maybe she'll become a Dranei Hunter too. Just like I did.


Clappity-clap-clap-clap. Hear hear and cheers.

"exasperatingly" . . . . you have a little geek inside you too... oh wait, that didn't sound right.

[Knale29]

the previous reply was right. A geek is can be almost anything these days. I love video games and computers and bad movies but I also like mountain biking, bouldering and ultimate frisbee. Even on this podcast whether they admit it or not people watch diggnation because they think Alex and Kevin are cool. People react to how much confidence you convey, not what your interests are.

[Berrex]

I consider myself a geek. I'm a tech junkie. But I don't think that's a bad thing. It's nice knowing that I will never have a "technology crisis" like my older relatives often have that completely put their lives on halt until it's fixed.

I personally think that people who still consider geeks to be the armpit of society are idiots. As for dating, I try to avoid dating such idiots. But maybe that's why I'm single right now. D'oh! =P

[vahnx]

I installed Ubuntu 7.10 over the holidays, and today was my first day back at school. I was using the cube rotation and two bimbo's saw and were like 'wow how did you do that? can my computer do that?' and I was like 'Well.. no' (or something like that) and they were like 'how did you do it?', and I was like 'it's hard work to do', or something of that matter.

Just thought I'd share.

[Knale29]

/\ You should have offered to go to their houses and set up ubuntu for them. :rolleyes:

[kevincollateral]

/\ You should have offered to go to their houses and set up ubuntu for them. :rolleyes:

haha yeah...another story of gettin laid via ubuntu! ooooor maybe the first....?? :D

[frankiethewaffle]

Geek, as a word, has for the most part been transformed into a broader description of people that know about any kind of Tech stuff. At the same time it has become not so negative.

If you want to date a geek chic, go to geek events. If you think you can only have a relationship with a geek chic, you are the problem. If you can not maintain a relationship with someone that does not share the exact same lifestyle as you, stop blaming or looking for anyone else.

There are many sides to me. The Geek me, the blue collar job me, the gym me, the socializing me, the performer me. (That one surprises most people that already know me. They tell me I am mean on stage. I try to do that.) I would love to combine a few of those things. Like make Tech my job. But that is not all that I am. Make a social effort.

Oh as far as the word Dyke. I like both uses. One keeps me from drowning in a flood and the other features videos that are better than Viagra. Hell, I am a self proclaimed lesbian trapped in a mans' body anyway.

[lsman11]

yea sure, if you date a geek, don't expect him to 'crank dat soldier boy'

but we can definitely help when your apartment loses internet connection

:cool:

[radzack]

Personally I consider myself a geek. Unless you know me very well, from the outside looking in, you would never assume that...that is until you walk into my apartment. Or maybe tech is being called chic nowadays? When I do live interviews for bands at concerts and such, and around town, I always get compliments on my macbookpro...it seems that geek is not a bad term nowadays right? When I travel and do film work, I know I look geeky getting all the shots I need and such, but I've never felt anything but appreciation of what I do from people. At least I've never been told anything different.

just a thought.

cute pic aria, by the way.

[Mez85]

i just saw my first ep of diggnation on youtube bout 10min ago. love it and will be coming here for more! anyway, it was ep 129 bout the guy who was engaged to the chick that didnt like his geekiness.

well i am a 22yo girl. i like computers, i play world of warcraft (ok so i have a mild addiction) and i live with my bf of 3 years who also plays wow.

there are a few things in that ep that id like to address and let you guys know to help with ur finding a girl, keeping one, whatever.

it was mentioned that u should tell ur girl about your gaming habits and if she's not cool that ur on the computer all day, thats her bad. im sorry, but thats not good enough for me. i play wow. i understand the need to be on the computer all day. i do it myself. but if i get home from grocery shopping or whatever (by myself? tsk tsk you should have come with me!!!) and the house is a mess and NOTHING has been done, it doesnt matter how much i love you or wow, im gonna take a chunk out of ur ass. i still do housework AND play wow.

its called long flights. everytime i get on a flight to somewhere i put on a load of washing. next flight, hang out the washing. really long flight (like shattrath to netherstorm)? cook dinner or do the dishes.

this might sound harsh to u blokes, or like my man is pussywhipped, but i think im a pretty good gf. i cook most nights, serve him food at his desk, loan him gold to pay repair bills, and other things that i wont mention here. all i ask is for shared responsibility with chores, and as we both play wow, neither of us can use it as an excuse.

but basically the guys were right, if you are with someone who cant handle your geekiness then maybe theres no point being with them. i know i sometimes would look at my bf when he did something uber geeky (like hire out every single star trek movie and watch them in a marathon... im not a trek fan at all. cant even watch an episode.) and say "wtf are you thinking?! ur such a freak!" but then i also figure that its his time, if he enjoys it who am i to stop him? i play guitar and other instruments, and he has no idea about music at all. thats my thing, and im sure he thinks im a freak when i talk about it and he doesnt understand.

basically its just give and take. you both have to work at a relationship, and even if you dont have the same tastes or hobbies, just agree to disagree and give each other space for what each of you enjoys doing :)

[limedcoconut]

Uh oh, another woman beat me to the punch.

Few things, normal women date geeky guys, because honestly, most guys are total geeks, no matter how attractive they are. They just might be geeky about different shit, sports, working out, or something of that ilk.

I happen to date and hang with the more traditionally geeky dudes, the boyfriend (i bet you all love how the only women responding are already in relationships, kinda cruel, i know) collects some star wars maquettes and got over a very serious FFXI addiction about a year and a half ago. However, the key is doing geeky crap together.

Women have a problem with thinking they can change men, if you notice your bitch trying to do so, tell her its not going to happen, it'll hurt but its what is.

Where do you meet geeky girls? Same way you meet normal ones, go outside.

[darknessgp]

Uh oh, another woman beat me to the punch.

Few things, normal women date geeky guys, because honestly, most guys are total geeks, no matter how attractive they are. They just might be geeky about different shit, sports, working out, or something of that ilk. ...

Sorry, but I wouldn't say most guys are total geeks. I'd say the term "geek" along with "nerd" are overused, especially by women. I've heard sorority girls call themselves and other Greeks "geeks" and "nerds" when it is apparently that they do not fit that way. Seriously, I don't know how many times I've heard a clearly jock guy be called a "geek" by a sorority girl because he plays Madden and Halo on an XBox.

So, I think the real definition for "geek" would be ... A person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept. Jocks might be single-minded in regards to Sports. But there is a reason they were called Jocks and not geeks.

On meeting geeky girls, I'd say don't set out to meet one. If you are looking for a woman, why would you put limits on it? I know a woman who isn't very tech savvy, not really into video games that much, but loves to play the drums on Rock Band. If I was setting out to find a geeky girl, I wouldn't consider her.

[limedcoconut]

well said, and you're right. I suppose i was trying to equalize the playing field a bit, that geekiness is not an extreme.

[darknessgp]

well said, and you're right. I suppose i was trying to equalize the playing field a bit, that geekiness is not an extreme.

Well, to be fair, I think most people at some point will "geek out" and have a geeky moment. To me, that doesn't make them a geek. The same way me picking up a basketball and playing a game doesn't make me an athlete.

Also, I can understand wanting to use the term to mean someone that is very deeply passionate about one specific subject. i.e. tech-geek, book-geek, etc. Maybe I'm just getting too old, but being a geek means science/technology and being socially awkward. I guess I feel people are using it as a very general term, instead of a specific one. Like the reverse of how the term hacking used to be any type of messing around to try and produce things. Like hacking on a musical instrument to figure out a song, but now it's almost exclusively used to mean someone gaining unauthorized access to a computer system, file, etc.

[limedcoconut]

I got to admit I am not an old-timer as far as computers go (i was just born too late) but i like the term "hacking" to describe the act of fucking around with something to make it work for you (or how you want it to work)

I think it was actual Mr. Kevin Rose who used that term on the old Screen Savers in that context and I was like "fuckin, that makes sense"

[zeely]

I myself am a female geek. I love watching Diggnation and TRS. I get on digg multiple times a day and starting in the fall I will be studying Computer Science. And I personally I love geeky guys, most guys are don't understand how I like to stay home and play Bioshock or WoW, or watch movies such as Hackers or Office Space. Plus geeks can teach me stuff I don't know. My last geeky boyfriend taught me alot about Linux (I knew some stuff but he help me get more into it). Geeky guys are the best!