View Full Version : men only... cave time
rabidbadger
03-08-2008, 02:03 AM
OK, my ex never understood that I needed "cave time" an hour or two every night to decompress, deal with email, follow forums, check interesting web news, or just crank it when the sig other wasn't in the mood. any one else have to deal with this? Needing time alone? just for a while... especially after a hard days work?
ariastar
03-08-2008, 02:06 AM
Right now, with what's going on, I'm glad to always have someone around. But even in past relationships I never lived with someone unless we had at least two rooms so I could get away for a few days if need be. I get like that very much sometimes, needing a day or two to myself, even if things are otherwise fine, and expect this will happen with Cody too.
ryudo
03-08-2008, 02:08 AM
I thought everyone did.
I sure as hell need it for when I wake up in the morning and coming home.
rabidbadger
03-08-2008, 02:10 AM
umm. love you. but hey. did you read the first two words of the thread title...?
ariastar
03-08-2008, 02:14 AM
umm. love you. but hey. did you read the first two words of the thread title...?
Well, YOU Sent the link in chat. :) And only a handful of us here are women. Since when do any of you guys listen when a post says Women Only? :D
I think I've got a Y chrom-no, wait, I don't. You men are all half-women though!
kronos6948
03-08-2008, 02:22 AM
My ex never understood the concept. I always told her I needed time to recharge. A day where I didn't leave the apartment. She always wanted to go somewhere, and I HAD to go with her. All the more reason I'm happy that she's my ex.
ryudo
03-08-2008, 02:24 AM
Well, YOU Sent the link in chat. :) And only a handful of us here are women. Since when do any of you guys listen when a post says Women Only? :D
I think I've got a Y chrom-no, wait, I don't. You men are all half-women though!
Man Nipples explained.
rabidbadger
03-08-2008, 02:28 AM
My ex never understood the concept. I always told her I needed time to recharge. A day where I didn't leave the apartment. She always wanted to go somewhere, and I HAD to go with her. All the more reason I'm happy that she's my ex.
a whole day? I just needed an hour or two..
rabidbadger
03-08-2008, 02:29 AM
Man Nipples explained.
haha
always wondered about those. but made good use of them in the interim
techliveadmin
03-08-2008, 03:07 AM
I usually need an hour or two on the internet to cool off after school. It's kinda like me catching up with the world...having fun....just reading mail, being on some forum and checking out the latest news......
Its kind of like my getaway I suppose...
rabidbadger
03-08-2008, 03:13 AM
I thought everyone did.
no. my ex re-generated by being social, on phone, chat, partying, happy hour etc.. that why we are ex's. haha. I needed my down time, he didn't.
kronos6948
03-08-2008, 04:24 AM
a whole day? I just needed an hour or two..
We never spent ANY time apart. I was out every single day of the week. I'm a bit of a home body. I prefer to stay home. So, one day just to veg out (usually still consisted of me doing housework, since I did the cooking and half the cleaning), and I'd be fine. I didn't feel like shopping on my weekends with her, and if we went out, it was with her friends, not mine. She never liked my friends, so that caused even more friction. Maybe I would've been more apt to go out if it wasn't such an issue.
Since when do any of you guys listen :D :D :D
I think I've got a Y chrom-no, wait, I don't. You men are all half-women though!
and the all started out as XX the y comes later :p
i treasure my time alone
i don't give it up for just anyone or just anything
ericjosepi
03-09-2008, 03:02 AM
Me Ugh. Me Cave Troll. Me no come out for a few days.
In all seriousness though, I do appreciate having some serious downtime to me. And even moreso since becoming single one year ago
xibalba
03-09-2008, 03:05 AM
http://digitalblueglobal.files.wordpress.com/2007/05/caveman.jpg
rabidbadger
03-09-2008, 03:59 AM
In all seriousness though, I do appreciate having some serious downtime to me.
gotta have downtime
never understood any one who didnt't understand that.
xibalba
03-09-2008, 06:01 AM
Caaaaptain.... Caaaa-aaa-aavemaaaaan!
thrina
03-10-2008, 05:07 AM
I'd go crazy if I didn't have a few hours to myself everyday. It seems a lot of you guys feel the same way. It always baffled me why some guys would complain about not having enough downtime, and yet be attracted to the giggly, super-talkative, "I <3 2 shop & chill w/ my grrlz" kinda girls.
Is it because they're usually the most physically attractive girls?
ericjosepi
03-10-2008, 05:27 AM
the giggly, super-talkative, "I <3 2 shop & chill w/ my grrlz" kinda girls.
Is it because they're usually the most physically attractive girls?
In the most shallow sense of the word attractive, i suppose. You only see those retarded bimbos on TV shows like the hills, the oc, laguna beach and other bullshit shows that try to portray an idea that I just hate. If in the first five seconds of meeting someone, I can tell that they have the IQ and attention span of a squirrel with ADD, that's an INSTANT "I'm out."
md2389
03-10-2008, 08:11 PM
I'm sure there are several women reading this thread by now. ;)
Seriously though, as long as I get atleast half an hour to just chill and unwind, I'm cool. If not, I'm going to be grumpy as hell. :P
techliveadmin
03-11-2008, 01:03 AM
I was lost. For the past 2 days my net was givin probs and I couldnt do much at all. I felt lost, lonely, couldn't sleep or eat. Was weird. I mean techliveadmin exists on the net and basically techliveadmin is me but different....I need me to surive, I need tcla to survive...it was hard...I can't explain how...
ericjosepi
03-11-2008, 01:06 AM
I was lost. For the past 2 days my net was givin probs and I couldnt do much at all. I felt lost, lonely, couldn't sleep or eat. Was weird. I mean techliveadmin exists on the net and basically techliveadmin is me but different....I need me to surive, I need tcla to survive...it was hard...I can't explain how...
And now we're venturing into Serial Experiments Lain-esque philosophical arguments...
rabidbadger
03-11-2008, 01:33 AM
my problem since being single after 12 years is that my whole life is cave time... and the rest of my life is falling apart because of it...
damnedeyez
03-11-2008, 01:42 AM
my problem since being single after 12 years is that my whole life is cave time... and the rest of my life is falling apart because of it...
Being a hermit/recluse has it's advantages, though...
ericjosepi
03-11-2008, 01:44 AM
my problem since being single after 12 years is that my whole life is cave time... and the rest of my life is falling apart because of it...
I know how that goes. Luckily I'm in school right now and thus around people at all times, giving me the opportunity to interact with people and break my somewhat anti-social habits.
rabidbadger
03-11-2008, 01:55 AM
I know how that goes. Luckily I'm in school right now and thus around people at all times, giving me the opportunity to interact with people and break my somewhat anti-social habits.
yeah. I need more meatspace interaction. living alone sucks. too easy to put shit off. been on chat with fellow rev3ers about it. and got family in other states to keep me sane. but still, not enough :( still a royal fuckup
ericjosepi
03-11-2008, 02:02 AM
still a royal fuckup
Whoa dude... that's pretty heavy... you might wanna take a step back on that one... I don't think any of us think that you are a royal fuck up...
Being a hermit/recluse has it's advantages, though...
i am into it :cool:
yeah. I need more meatspace interaction. living alone sucks. too easy to put shit off. been on chat with fellow rev3ers about it. and got family in other states to keep me sane. but still, not enough :( still a royal fuckup
you need sunshine and ocean breezes :)
rabidbadger
03-11-2008, 02:08 AM
Whoa dude... that's pretty heavy... you might wanna take a step back on that one... I don't think any of us think that you are a royal fuck up...
dude. thanks for caring. I do have Meatspace friends. they keep me sane. Just winter and snow, and driving in winter snow, makes me hibernate. and be lazy. I live on the web in winter. so much easier...
techliveadmin
03-11-2008, 10:40 PM
Most of us do actually live on the web. I mean its where we all spend out time.....o well...u may be a screw up but not a well....u know..
iccanui
03-12-2008, 01:28 PM
Listen to skyz
Look, being alone is freaking awesome. Its your perspective that needs tweaking. I suspect this call comes down to desire. One thing i learned while studying the buddhist mind is that desire is pretty much the root of all pain in your life. Let go, find the simple pelasures in life that transcend this fucked up human existence. Im serious, we are pretty fucked up right now, know that and realize that when your down on yourself for being a hermit or caveman or whatever it is that makes you unhappy.
I sense im not making my point clear enough though so im gonna let mother make it for me.
The next warm day, not hot, not cold, just a nice and breezy day, go to a park or a beach where there is no one around, no giggling children, no chatty house wives on phones, no over worked wallstreet business man. Just sit and listen to nature. Watch the breeze gently sway the trees. Stand up and let it gently sway you, release yourself to the flow around you and take note of the pace you feel. Then drive back to the city or town you live in, sit on a busy corner and just look and reflect on the difference in pace you felt in nature and the pace we as humans not only attain, but dwell in.
Do that as i said it and perhaps you too will see that people have it wrong. If so ask that person in your head, whats really important in life and am i pursuing it. If you are, relax, proceed at YOUR pace, not the worlds, cause its out of sync, over stressed and heading to its end at the moment. If not, well thats awesome, cause now you know what you have to do to bring about peace in your life, make the change today and know you have people around you, even if remotly, that like you and support you. Thats more then i have, so if i can do it, you can.
Remember 2 quotes.
I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
-Dune
If you have a issue in your life and you can do nothing to fix it, it does no good only harm to worry about it. If you have a issue and you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry about it.
So no matter what your situation, worry and fear only hinder and never help. So just chose to not worry.
-some dude
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But to the original question, absolutly. I require a lot of alone time to get thoughts together and just be myself. If i wanna stand on my head and recite the abc's backwards i can and will not be judged. Though just a point to make, if thats become your entertainment, get a hobby, a physically active hobby. I know, itshard and so easy to be lazy, but truly, once you spend about a month getting your body used to it, you are a different person.
Hope some wisdom can be found in the above for ya, if not flush and move on.
geiselle
03-15-2008, 06:13 PM
I require a lot of that sort of time. During times when we have a ton of houseguests I often stop interacting with anyone and just stay in my room for full days. I refer to it as being "off people." These are when there are up to NINE people, some I don't know very well, staying in our 3-bedroom house--constant activity, and then frequent drinking and sometimes smoking weed. It gets very overwhelming.
But requiring an hour or so of this time on a regular basis: people should be able to understand or at least accept the need for some alone time, especially if you want it right after getting off work. Work transforms people into automatons, they must have time, after temporarily escaping the work environment, to convert themselves back into normal human beings! Some may find it annoying but it is necessary to the survival of the human race (I suspect we would all kill one another should too many stressed-out people in dress shirts and black shoes be aloud to roam freely). Plus there are just some things you enjoy doing that don't work as group activities. Gotta check e-mail or read SOMETIME, and it must be done alone.
CAVE TROLLZ 4 LYFE
the more you like yourself the more happy you will be with being alone
after all you are never really alone because you are always there :D
now liking yourself comes down to how you think about yourself and how others think about you
how you think about yourself is totally up to you
how others think about you is irrelevant
rikki
03-17-2008, 01:49 PM
...or just crank it when the sig other wasn't in the mood....
Such openess on the intertubes :)
I enjoy my forum/CS:S/FL Studio/Vegas time away from cat / gf