View Full Version : I hate the Holidays...
lupin
12-20-2006, 09:47 AM
I always get depressed. Im not sure why. I have a theory but the incident in question if I remember correctly didnt even happen in winter. How is the rest of you guys holiday season been going. (Im not sure when people say its "the holidays" but less then a week away I feel like Im kind of close)
masherscf
12-20-2006, 09:53 AM
I always have the best time at the holiday season. Work shuts down for about four weeks and I get to spend time w/ my family. We drive around the northeast for about six days making appearances at various extended family homes.
Christmas and Hanukkah are family oriented holiday's. How much fun you have, or not, is dependent on your family situation.
ariastar
12-20-2006, 10:44 AM
The only family is my mom. The rest are default relatives who disowned me after my dad died. My mom's not local, and anyway, she works the night before and the night of as a nurse, so will be sleeping during the day. Holidays are always lonely for me, but I'm getting used to spending them alone. I have a Christmas tradition where I take the train into San Francisco, always the train, and then walk up to Union Square and poke around there. Nothing's ever open and it's cold, but the alternative is to sit home and mope. So I make the best of it.
Every year all the people I know locally head out of town. Some just to other states in the time zone, some to other countries. Some are already gone, the rest will be gone by Saturday. The soonest anyone returns will be I think the 2nd of January. I'd like to have somewhere to go, but don't.
Lupin, what is your family situation?
rhett803
12-20-2006, 04:11 PM
Ah, I love the holidays. The one time of year, aside from national tragedies, where people actually act a little nicer.
On christmas eve, I'll spend time with my dad (divorced parents) sister and that side of the family. This year I'm having a huge bon fire, (cutting down large trees to get my 6' logs) and everyone is bringing something for the grill. Should be fun!
On christmas day, my moms family all gets together at grandmas. Looking to be about 30 people or so. Now all througout the year at other holidays and family get togethers the women usually cook. So on christmas all the guys will do the cooking. For christmas dinner we will ber serving large ribeye steaks fresh off the grill, bake potatos, salad, fries, and lots of other little things. Then there are tons of desserts; pies, cakes, cookies oh my!
I really do love the holiday season. And AriaStar if you want you are welcome to come! Catch a flight in to Columbia, South Carolina. And don't worry, we already have lots of "special" eggnog to make the day even better.
keithldick
12-20-2006, 08:25 PM
Winter time always depresses some people because it gets dark earlier... I find if I have the room well lit as soon as it gets dark I fell more awake and a bit happier...
not the biggest fan, for sure once you hit after 18 years of age...
the snow, unless you snowboard or ski, sucks
lupin
12-20-2006, 08:34 PM
Lupin, what is your family situation?
17 years old and I live with my mom. Thats it. I live in Phoenix now, but till I was like 11 I lived in Kentucky surrounded by all my family (think the whole cousins you never knew about thing) during the holidays. Maybes thats is it, just compared to those huge christmas where we all got together and played games these small almost pointless celebration just upset me more then get me in the holiday mood.
tokenuser
12-20-2006, 08:51 PM
17 years old and I live with my mom. Thats it. I live in Phoenix now, but till I was like 11 I lived in Kentucky surrounded by all my family (think the whole cousins you never knew about thing) during the holidays. Maybes thats is it, just compared to those huge christmas where we all got together and played games these small almost pointless celebration just upset me more then get me in the holiday mood.I understand where you are coming from. Its just my wife and I here. Our family all live in Australia. A typical Christmas for us had about 30 people involved ... when there are just tow of you it DOES lose its sparkle. We have our decorations up outside, but nothing inside ... and I am now trying to find a restaurant for a Christmas lunch.
BUT I *AM* doing a Christmas pudding this year :)
No matter how alone you feel, there are some thing that have to be done.
ariastar
12-20-2006, 09:21 PM
And AriaStar if you want you are welcome to come! Catch a flight in to Columbia, South Carolina. And don't worry, we already have lots of "special" eggnog to make the day even better.
LOL, thanks, wish I could just to get out of here!
ariastar
12-20-2006, 09:24 PM
17 years old and I live with my mom. Thats it. I live in Phoenix now, but till I was like 11 I lived in Kentucky surrounded by all my family (think the whole cousins you never knew about thing) during the holidays. Maybes thats is it, just compared to those huge christmas where we all got together and played games these small almost pointless celebration just upset me more then get me in the holiday mood.
Sweetie, I understand. Growing up I had a large family. Oldest of 33 cousins, not counting their kids (add about another 10), is that gives you any idea. Disowned for not being able to prevent my dad's death. So by comparison, the holidays are very quiet now.
But be thankful that you will have your mom on Christmas day. Not all of us even have that. I'll be going to San Francisco to Union Square because there might be people there. I envy that you won't have to go anywhere to see someone. I'd like to go to bed knowing there will be at least one person instead of having to go somewhere just to hope I might meet a stranger to talk to for a while.
Know how I handle it? By finding the beauty in solitude. It still hurts some, but there can be good and beauty of you're willing to look. It's better to spend a holiday with one special person, which you have, so truly be thankful that your mom is there.
samureye
12-20-2006, 09:39 PM
I don't know why Christmas is bumming you out. Not my favourite time of year at the moment either, but that's because i'm a whiny sourpuss. Go to a party, make friends, hang out with friends, spend time at a soup kitchen, just do something. And if you're doing something charitable, remember, people don't need help at Christmas time only, needy people are usually always needy.
As for the festivus, holidays nonsense, screw it. It's Christmas, you want to celebrate it but don't want the name, why? Thanksgiving is a holiday, Divali and Wid-Ul-Fitr are holidays here as well. Independence day? Yup. Veteran's Day, Momorial Day? Sure, why not? So why call Christmas "The Holiday(s)", "Festivus" or "Xmas" which is the worst in my opinion. It's not a nice thing, at all. Oh, but do you see Christians protesting in the streets threatening total Anarchy? Not the least bit.
njshadow
12-20-2006, 10:20 PM
I freakin' love Christmas and Winter!!! I wait for December-January all year beacause of:
1.Christmas
2.My Birthday
3.New Years
For me a 32 degree or below day is a GOOOOOD Day :D
And as for me I love snow.
Ahhhhhhh, Winter has finally come.........:D :D :D
noonebutme
12-20-2006, 11:10 PM
Christmas is generally any other day of the year for me - im jewish :P
Though on new years, my family gets together at someone's house and then talks about random things / play video games until someone realizes we forgot to watch the ball drop on tv. Good times, cant imagine not doing that during the holidays.
ariastar
12-21-2006, 01:14 AM
I don't know why Christmas is bumming you out. Not my favourite time of year at the moment either, but that's because i'm a whiny sourpuss. Go to a party, make friends, hang out with friends, spend time at a soup kitchen, just do something. And if you're doing something charitable, remember, people don't need help at Christmas time only, needy people are usually always needy.
As for the festivus, holidays nonsense, screw it. It's Christmas, you want to celebrate it but don't want the name, why? Thanksgiving is a holiday, Divali and Wid-Ul-Fitr are holidays here as well. Independence day? Yup. Veteran's Day, Momorial Day? Sure, why not? So why call Christmas "The Holiday(s)", "Festivus" or "Xmas" which is the worst in my opinion. It's not a nice thing, at all. Oh, but do you see Christians protesting in the streets threatening total Anarchy? Not the least bit.
Major holidays like this cause a sense of loneliness for some people when friends are away with their families and you have no one to celebrate with. You have to know that most others are with families enjoying good cheer and you are alone. I'd rather be one of those homeless families just to have a family.
Most other holidays, where getting with family is not almost obligatory, it's fine to stay with friends. But Christmas is the one day when you pretty much have to go with family, so those without families are alone. And it's sad being alone.
You are fortunate if you can't understand why some people are sad at Holiday time.
popltree2
12-21-2006, 07:22 AM
Enough mopping! Party at my house!
ariastar
12-21-2006, 09:05 PM
Enough mopping! Party at my house!
Dammit, Cody, I wish I could get down there!
samureye
12-21-2006, 11:37 PM
Dammit, Cody, I wish I could get down there!
That's what his wife said. OH!
ariastar
12-22-2006, 12:45 AM
That's what his wife said. OH!
Ew! Cody and I love each other like siblings. He's my younger-big-brother and I'm his older-little-sis. You suggest incest. That may be YOUR cup of tea, but I prefer chamomile!
Silly boys.
rabidbadger
12-22-2006, 05:17 AM
The only family is my mom. The rest are default relatives who disowned me after my dad died. My mom's not local, and anyway, she works the night before and the night of as a nurse, so will be sleeping during the day. Holidays are always lonely for me, but I'm getting used to spending them alone. I have a Christmas tradition where I take the train into San Francisco, always the train, and then walk up to Union Square and poke around there. Nothing's ever open and it's cold, but the alternative is to sit home and mope. So I make the best of it.
Every year all the people I know locally head out of town. Some just to other states in the time zone, some to other countries. Some are already gone, the rest will be gone by Saturday. The soonest anyone returns will be I think the 2nd of January. I'd like to have somewhere to go, but don't.
Lupin, what is your family situation?
Let's Change that next year. I, too, have minimal family at holiday times. Let's meet next year. Either here, there, or half way in between.
Date?
Date!
(Sure, I'm a lonely ol' queen, but a nice one :) )
ariastar
12-22-2006, 09:53 AM
Let's Change that next year. I, too, have minimal family at holiday times. Let's meet next year. Either here, there, or half way in between.
Date?
Date!
(Sure, I'm a lonely ol' queen, but a nice one :) )
Sounds a plan. Where are you located?
valleyvampiress
12-22-2006, 11:28 AM
It's becoming tradition now for my mom to make her homeade enchiladas while the family meet at my mom's house to celebrate. Usually it is one of my sisters (out of two), my mom, my g/f, and sometimes now my 3yr. old nephew (sometimes he is at his dad's house for holidays) who are in attendance. So it isn't a big gathering, but it is fine by me. It just means more enchiladas for me. ;) Oh yes, and I'm bringing my Wii so I can beat my mom at bowling. :D She loves that game.
AriaStar, maybe you could ask to be invited (with the families consent of course) to one of your close friend's get togethers. It might be odd at first if you don't know any of the family, but I'm sure if they are a decent family, they will open their arms to you if you don't have any family to share Christmas with. Eventually it may even become a tradition for you to attend. Who knows. Just a thought.
rabidbadger
12-22-2006, 08:30 PM
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Sounds a plan. Where are you located?[/QUOTE]
Rochester NY. So after thinking about it I should come to your neck of the woods. It's a nice little city with tons of art and culture, but I've always wanted to see California. And rumor has it you have a couch.
ariastar
12-22-2006, 10:41 PM
Sounds a plan. Where are you located?[/QUOTE]
Rochester NY. So after thinking about it I should come to your neck of the woods. It's a nice little city with tons of art and culture, but I've always wanted to see California. And rumor has it you have a couch.[/QUOTE]
My couch is hella comfortable! It's always available for cool people who want a place to bunk for a few days!
ariastar
12-22-2006, 10:43 PM
It's becoming tradition now for my mom to make her homeade enchiladas while the family meet at my mom's house to celebrate. Usually it is one of my sisters (out of two), my mom, my g/f, and sometimes now my 3yr. old nephew (sometimes he is at his dad's house for holidays) who are in attendance. So it isn't a big gathering, but it is fine by me. It just means more enchiladas for me. ;) Oh yes, and I'm bringing my Wii so I can beat my mom at bowling. :D She loves that game.
AriaStar, maybe you could ask to be invited (with the families consent of course) to one of your close friend's get togethers. It might be odd at first if you don't know any of the family, but I'm sure if they are a decent family, they will open their arms to you if you don't have any family to share Christmas with. Eventually it may even become a tradition for you to attend. Who knows. Just a thought.
When family get-togethers are out-of-state, or even out-of-country, and last for a week or two, I wouldn't feel comfortable imposing for so long on anyone. I never even felt comfortable at my own relatives' places for more than a few days as a child. I'm fairly used to it by now.
lefrenzy
12-24-2006, 08:42 PM
Christmas can be depressing to some because it costs way too much money in our beloved Consumerism society.
Anyway, even though I'm an Atheist, I find Christmas a nice gathering to get the whole family together, plus it's nice to see all the brothers not fighting with each other too much...since they are too busy opening presents.
Joyeux Noel REV3
ryudo
12-24-2006, 10:51 PM
Why is every topic you make about hating something?..wierd
As for what people are talking about christmas...
My dad is dead ..my family lives in California so Christmas like the last one will be spent alone at home for me.