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Originally Posted by techliveadmin

He was?

So whats the story with this now?

Ah, you haven't been around! The semi-comprehensive story:

Cody and I met here on this very forum in 2006. I was just out of another relationship, and he was with his wife. We became very good friends, and he came up for a visit when Vintage Computer Festival rolled around. In case you're wondering, no. He's the faithful sort and I'd never go for a married man living with his wife.

I ended up in another relationship with Nick, who I still mention from time to time and we're still friends, and he and Cody get along great, which thrills me. Nick and I got together in December 2006.

Sometime in the middle of last year, Cody and Randi decided to split. It just wasn't working. Not a bad split, really, in terms of reason. Sure, not fun, but amicable, and they're still friends and she and I are friends now too.

I felt horrible for Cody having to go through something like this, and as I was with Nick, the thought that we could end up together never crossed my mind.

But then Nick and I broke up in October, kind of a bad split, to be honest, and surprising to an extent that we are still such good friends. His new girlfriend is a doll and I'm fond of her. So niceness all around. I love that.

I think Badge could sense that I'd been attracted to Cody on and off for a while, which made me feel guilty as all hell. Someone with a boyfriend feeling any level of attraction to someone with a wife? I chalked it up to normal adult attraction and shoved it out of my mind.

But Joel broke the ice now that Cody and I were both single. A pair of good friends who adore each other, we were planning to see each other for our birthdays (I'm December 8, 1980, and Cody is December 7, 1982).

At first when we were talking about the possibility, I didn't think there could be a future for us more or less because I was scared to death. What if we tried, it didn't work, and I lost one of the people I considered to be among my best friends? (I refuse to pick just one best friend among platonic friends.) What if it did work, but we were living hundreds of miles apart?

So I got down there on December 6th, took AmTrak (a train in the US), longest eight hours of my life. And I got off at the platform, no one else around. And it was sweet. Cody scooped me into a hug and just kissed me under an old-fashioned light pole.

Needless to say it was definitely good between us. More than good. Fantastic. On December 9th, at the Santa Barbara Courthouse (this place is amazingly gorgeous, more like a museum), we decided we would be married there. My icon pic was taken there.

He gave his notice to the company he was working for at the time, and back at home, I put in for a transfer from the Archstone in San Jose for a 2br townhouse (the second is an office/sewing/multi-purpose room) at the Archstone in Cupertino (go to Apple's headquarters, pick up a rock, and throw it - we live about that far away). On January 5th, he arrived, UHaul in tow, to my San Jose place, and on January 12th, we moved to our new place in Cupertino.

Now we are planning for IVF and are talking about having our wedding March 14th of next year (3.14, pi, get it: ).

His divorce will be final in July, and Randi is happy for us, which means a lot to both of us. I adore that girl to pieces.

So, all in all, it sounds like a fast track, and we're aware of that. However, we have more than a year of getting to know each other as friends first, a year during which we never would have though we'd end up together. We feel this is a benefit as you let your guard down a bit more around friends than around a potential mate, so I confided a lot more in him that I'd otherwise do with someone I was hoping to have a future with, and vice versa. With dating, you put your best foot forward. With friends, you feel more free to behave stupidly or whatnot.

I can't imagine being happier, and every time I think I can't possibly love him more than I already do, I find that I do. Sure, we have arguments like any couple in which both people state different opinions or I get PMSy and bitchy or whatever, but I know that, at the end of the day, he's there for me and I'm there for him.


Breakdown summary:
I was single, Cody was with wife.
I was with boyfriend, Cody was with wife.
I was with boyfriend, Cody was divorcing.
I was single, Cody was divorcing.
We get together.

Next:
We are together, Cody will be divorced.
We will be married.

Happily ever after.


So there you have it.